Girl’s Mother Caused Polanski to Rape

With Roman Polanski having been arrested in Switzerland on an outstanding US arrest warrant, the rape apologists have been coming out in droves.  However, we here at I Blame The Mother care about mother-blaming.  Luckily for us, the rape apologists have got that covered, too.  They figured out that Roman Polanski would not have raped a 13-year-old girl except for the girl’s mother!  Here’s Joan Z Shore, Co-founder of  Women Overseas for Equality (Belgium), over at the Huffington Post laying it out for us:

The 13-year old model “seduced” by Polanski had been thrust onto him by her mother, who wanted her in the movies.

As Amanda Hess, in her column over at the Washington City Paper, comments about Shore’s description:

So, Polanski is just a really special guy who was practically forced to have sex with that 13-year-old girl by her mother.

Brynn Caffey puts a slightly different spin on the mother-blaming in his comments on an article he wrote at the Bilerico Project.  He starts with this comnment:

Finally, her mother. What mother would let her 13-year-old daughter go on a photo shoot alone with a Hollywood director? And twice?! As a mother, I can tell you I would not, without a shadow of a doubt. This does lead one to question if her mother was knowingly looking to eventually profit from the encounter.

and follows it up later with this comment in case we missed that he was accusing the mother of deliberately sending her underaged daughter to get raped:

What is open to question is whether [the girl’s] primary victimizer was Polanski, or her mother. If the latter, it would certainly not be the first time a parent deliberately coached their child on how to behave and what to say afterwards, then callously pushed her into an exploitative situation with a Hollywood celebrity hoping it would result in a sexual encounter from which she could profit—financially or in other ways.

(Note: For those confused by my referring to Caffey, a mother, as “he”, this is because he is a transgender man.  I’ve also edited out his use of the girl’s name in his second comment.  I see no reason to continue victimising her more than has been and continues to be done.)

I prefer Caffey’s mother-blaming rape apologism to Shore’s not only because it’s more direct in the blaming, but because it always gives me an extra warm feeling when it’s a mother invoking motherhood to blame another mother.


“A Nation of Wimps”: guess who’s to blame!

(Obviously we are discussing the United States of Asshattery America. Because what other nation is there?)

Reader Vittra offered us today’s thrilling selection, which, though it’s old, was too horrifying full of shit what the fuck were they smoking good to pass up.

Psychology Today declares we are “A Nation of Wimps”. We are stupid, weak, learning disabled (only not really, because learning disabilities are fake, and accommodations for same are actually “cheating”), depressed, anxious, incapable, incompetent, impatient, and immature, and they spend more paragraphs than I care to count disparaging and insulting American youth for being that way. And can you guess who they blame?

Is it a culture that encourages litigation — by the lack of universal health care, by a justice system having nothing to do with real justice, by a class divide so deep and corporations so powerful that awards in the millions are barely slaps on the wrist for the “losers”, and the only way out of poverty for the “winners” — at the cost of common sense, community, and actual caring?

Is it corporations themselves, or commercialization (their means of control) — or the very idea of unregulated capitalism itself from which they arise –, which place short-term profit and appearance ahead of long-term prosperity or real meaning?

Is it the carving up and dissolution of communities, the worship of the “nuclear family”, the unwillingness to open ourselves up to receiving or offering assistance?

Is it a culture that pressures performance above health, production above personhood, technological “advances” above humanity and art?

Is it the school environment itself, which is eliminating recess and free time left and right, introducing academics younger and younger, and is structured so as to eliminate the free will and autonomy of the student — or the policies and politicians which are pushing for said academics and restrictions, requiring more and more testing at younger ages?

Is it the laws and legislations and interfering “do-gooders” that actively prosecute those parents who are attempting to raise “free range kids”?

Is it any part of the kyriarchy, of the culture families are immersed in, of the institutions they are required to navigate?

Of course not. Else I wouldn’t be ranting about it here.

No, the litany of loserhood Pscatology Today* unleashes on the unsuspecting reader is blamed entirely and solely on the parents.

From the first line (shaming “mommies” and “daddies” for playing with their kids) to the last (declaring parents selfish and shortsighted for being anxious about their kids, as though parents are incapable of worrying both about their own children and children everywhere), the article lets us know on no uncertain terms that we and we alone are to blame if our children have depression, or anxiety, or learning variations (which are fake anyway), or go wild in college.

I was going to take a moment for nuance  here — mention that I’m a big fan of benign neglect, for instance — but the author never did. It took me far too long to get through it (much of my spleen was vented on the subject on Twitter: pity my followers), hoping for some hint of rationality, of recognition of social factors, of broader perspective, but their dogged determination to blame the mother was so admirable that in the end I decided to imitate them. I guess my immature, indolent intellect (as evidenced by my lifetime struggle with bipolar depression) just wanted the easy way out.

I blame my parents.

*Sorry, couldn’t help myself. It’s just so full of shit.