It’s your fault if your son becomes a womaniser!

Baby boys who have a nanny ‘turn into womanisers’.

I was going to select a few choice quotes but it’s a short article so I’ve actually included most of it here! Apparently if you employ a nanny or au pair before your child’s first birthday you are setting them up to cheat on their wife (if they are a boy, and assuming they are heterosexual!) or fill their “vacuum of need” with “drink, drugs, sex or money” if they’re a girl.

“It introduces him to the concept of The Other Woman,” said Dr Friedman who is 85.

“It creates a division in his mind between the woman he knows to be his natural mother and the woman with whom he has real hands-on relationship: the woman who bathes him and takes him to the park, and with whom he feels completely at one.

“As a result, he grows up with the idea that although he will one day go through all the social and sexual formalities of marriage, he will have at the back of his mind the notion of this other woman, who not only knows, but caters for, all his needs.”

Baby girls are also not immune, he claims. If they have a nanny or au pair they are filled with a “vacuum of need” inside them which they fill in a variety of ways such as drink, drugs, sex or money.

He said that his comments would not be popular with women who feel they have a right to have a career and social life while bringing up their baby.

But that the baby has a right too, he said – the right to have a relationship with a mother who is “100 per cent connected”.

He said the solution was not to employ a nanny or au pair until after the baby’s first birthday.

Real winner, this bloke! And someone paid him to write a book about this toss?


5 Responses

  1. Wow. So I guess back when extended families all lived together, and all the women of the family and community chipped in to help take care of the baby, everyone grew up to become drug- and sex0addicted womanizers, huh? That’s TOTALLY what happens in communes like Ina May’s The Farm, too, (again, where large communities all help raise each other’s children).

    My son has several doting aunts who have spent lots of time with him so far in his first 2 years of life. He’s SCREWED!

    What a bunch of BS, lol…

  2. Well, I’m glad he’s cleared that one up! Because there was me thinking that persistent infidelity was just another tactic that some men used to abuse women emotionally, because they have little respect for them and because society tacitly condones their behaviour as being naturally ‘masculine’.

    So glad that there’s doctors like Mr Friedman around to set me straight.

  3. Wow – I knew the ‘career women’ were evil, but women wanting a social life after having a baby – whatever next!!

  4. Well my boy had a black nanny so I guess I should warn him he’s going to turn into Chris Brown.

    A psychologist friend of mine points out that none of these child ‘experts’ are ever asked what what kind of upbringing they had because inevitably it reflects on the kind of tosspot views they come out with later. Obviously Dr Friedman was told by his nanny what a nasty sexist little jerk he was hence the shite he’s spouting now.

  5. Tut.

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