I was going to select a few choice quotes but it’s a short article so I’ve actually included most of it here! Apparently if you employ a nanny or au pair before your child’s first birthday you are setting them up to cheat on their wife (if they are a boy, and assuming they are heterosexual!) or fill their “vacuum of need” with “drink, drugs, sex or money” if they’re a girl.
“It introduces him to the concept of The Other Woman,” said Dr Friedman who is 85.
“It creates a division in his mind between the woman he knows to be his natural mother and the woman with whom he has real hands-on relationship: the woman who bathes him and takes him to the park, and with whom he feels completely at one.
“As a result, he grows up with the idea that although he will one day go through all the social and sexual formalities of marriage, he will have at the back of his mind the notion of this other woman, who not only knows, but caters for, all his needs.”
Baby girls are also not immune, he claims. If they have a nanny or au pair they are filled with a “vacuum of need” inside them which they fill in a variety of ways such as drink, drugs, sex or money.
He said that his comments would not be popular with women who feel they have a right to have a career and social life while bringing up their baby.
But that the baby has a right too, he said – the right to have a relationship with a mother who is “100 per cent connected”.
He said the solution was not to employ a nanny or au pair until after the baby’s first birthday.
Real winner, this bloke! And someone paid him to write a book about this toss?
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