Girl’s Mother Caused Polanski to Rape

With Roman Polanski having been arrested in Switzerland on an outstanding US arrest warrant, the rape apologists have been coming out in droves.  However, we here at I Blame The Mother care about mother-blaming.  Luckily for us, the rape apologists have got that covered, too.  They figured out that Roman Polanski would not have raped a 13-year-old girl except for the girl’s mother!  Here’s Joan Z Shore, Co-founder of  Women Overseas for Equality (Belgium), over at the Huffington Post laying it out for us:

The 13-year old model “seduced” by Polanski had been thrust onto him by her mother, who wanted her in the movies.

As Amanda Hess, in her column over at the Washington City Paper, comments about Shore’s description:

So, Polanski is just a really special guy who was practically forced to have sex with that 13-year-old girl by her mother.

Brynn Caffey puts a slightly different spin on the mother-blaming in his comments on an article he wrote at the Bilerico Project.  He starts with this comnment:

Finally, her mother. What mother would let her 13-year-old daughter go on a photo shoot alone with a Hollywood director? And twice?! As a mother, I can tell you I would not, without a shadow of a doubt. This does lead one to question if her mother was knowingly looking to eventually profit from the encounter.

and follows it up later with this comment in case we missed that he was accusing the mother of deliberately sending her underaged daughter to get raped:

What is open to question is whether [the girl’s] primary victimizer was Polanski, or her mother. If the latter, it would certainly not be the first time a parent deliberately coached their child on how to behave and what to say afterwards, then callously pushed her into an exploitative situation with a Hollywood celebrity hoping it would result in a sexual encounter from which she could profit—financially or in other ways.

(Note: For those confused by my referring to Caffey, a mother, as “he”, this is because he is a transgender man.  I’ve also edited out his use of the girl’s name in his second comment.  I see no reason to continue victimising her more than has been and continues to be done.)

I prefer Caffey’s mother-blaming rape apologism to Shore’s not only because it’s more direct in the blaming, but because it always gives me an extra warm feeling when it’s a mother invoking motherhood to blame another mother.


3 Responses

  1. It does rather look as if that excellent Rape Prevention Tips list needs an addition:

    If a girl’s mother lets you have contact with her child, still don’t rape the child.

    And, well, of course it’s her mother’s fault. Any woman who fails to presume every man is a potential rapist is at fault; every mother whose child comes to harm is at fault. (Also, every woman who does presume that every man is a potential rapist is at fault, for being mean to men, who are lovely.)

  2. Yep, it couldn’t possibly have been that her mother was, in her own way, another victim of Polanski. She should have seen right through his privilege (unlike, oh, let’s see, practically half the film directors, actresses and actors in hollywood who seem to believe he’s some kind of martyred saint); in fact, she probably should have kept her daughter locked up – isn’t that what we’re all meant to do?

    Although, if we do keep our daughters locked up… well, that would have been wrong though too, because she’d be an over protective helicopter parent, wouldn’t she.

  3. What’s insane are how many well-know, well-respected, and generally speaking, morally sound folks are defending Polanski on this. The only thing I can think of that would make sense of it is that all said folks either have never read up on what happened, or think they have sort of inside information that no one else has that exonerates him (note: they don’t).

    Of course its all Polanski’s fault. There’s only one way it could not be his fault: if the girl, at age 13, looked and passed herself off as legal age (she didn’t) and made up the entire list of charges (she didn’t). Even if one of those things were provably reversed, he’d still be guilty of the other, so it’s still his fault.

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